The Break Up Back in early June, I was giving up on T for good – or at least, “indefinitely” – because it wasn’t working out. The day-to-day mental torture was unnecessary; it was ultimately not worth it. And if I was ever going back on T, it had to be on different terms: I had to want something different. But therein lies the catch. … Continue reading Testosterone: Our Rocky Relationship
Some Pre, During, Post Surgery Advice I Wish I Had Most of the emails I get from readers are about top surgery, specifically the process of getting it, how to go about it when you’re non-binary identified, (be it neutrois, genderqueer, agender, female, or unsure), how to look for the right surgeon, working through internal commotion as to whether getting surgery is the right step … Continue reading Top Surgery: Tips and Advice
Switching Switching jobs (or schools or towns) is probably the best opportunity one gets to make any sort of big change, especially something like name and pronouns. I’ll admit it was relatively easy, though not quite straightforward. A few people at my new job had already met me a year prior, and were introduced to me with my old name and old pronouns. On top … Continue reading Slip and Switch
The Perfect Fit A newly minted parent is tasked with the highly anticipated and/or much dreaded job of choosing a name for their baby. This soon-to-be alive little tiny person has yet to form an identity, showcase a personality, settle into habits and quirks; he/she/it/they are just an idea, an unformed blob of dreams and fears. The name that the parent(s) choose is based on … Continue reading The Story of My Name
Monday I started a new job. With a new name. And new pronouns. All I can say is: WOW. Old Job A little less than a year ago, I was faced with a similar situation. A shiny new job, thus the perfect chance to change pronouns. But that opening was quickly shut, either by myself or the circumstances, or both. Regardless, it wasn’t the right … Continue reading Monday
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An introduction to low dose testosterone: dosages, methods of delivery, why take low dose, and resources. Continue reading Low Dose Testosterone
An introduction to testosterone HRT: types, delivery methods, dosages, and resources. Continue reading Intro to Testosterone HRT
Transition is a unique path each transgender person takes. Then Historically, it was assumed that there was a prescribed path to transition; that each person had to jump through certain hoops in a specified sequence, in order to first “qualify” as being truly transgender, and then actually be “allowed” to transition. Each step was strictly laid out, and any deviations – whether external or internal … Continue reading The Road Less Traveled By
It’s summer (although in San Francisco it always feels like fog), and I’ve been reading! Here’s a taste of what’s been on my bookshelf this season. Second Son, by Ryan Sallans I met Ryan at the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference about a month ago. He took the time to carefully listen as I stumbled and rambled on, explaining how he is one of my “gender … Continue reading LGBTQ Summer Reads
Last summer I sent an email to the Transgender Law Center and asked for referrals to a trans-friendly immigration lawyer in San Francisco. The lawyer I met with was very perceptive, super LGBT friendly. (It is always very affirming to walk into a place and not be afraid of being completely honest, and moreover be respected for who you are.) Mexico I was born in … Continue reading Legal Gender Change, the International Version
