What I find fascinating is that, when presented with missing information, given a lack of evidence, or even evidence to the contrary, people desperately cling to their initial assumptions. And nothing is more unshakeable than the gender assumption. Rarely have people corrected themselves (at least in front of me) from making what they deemd was an “erroneous” gender assumption. And when they do, it is … Continue reading Illusions
Non-Binary Transition Presentation Success! Aside from not being able to plug in my computer for the colorful presentation I had prepared – which also meant my notes were a bit thrown off – it went rather smoothly I think. Overall turnout exceeded my expectations; I estimate there were 60-100 people (it’s really hard to tell, but the crowd was sizable, and not the empty room … Continue reading Philadelphia Trans Health Conference 2012, Post-Op
First Exactly three years, I started my first real job. Right at the very same time I started binding. The problem was that this job was in New York, and I lived in Philadelphia, which is a two hour commute on the bus. Each way. Binding is a real pain when you’re sitting on the bus for 2 hours, but I would do it because … Continue reading Transitioning At Work
My company moved offices about a month ago. At the old office, we had an open space, which was getting very crowded. Then we got acquired by a huge corporation, and our lease ran out. Off to cozy up to the corporate headquarters, where I get my very own cube and officially join the ranks of the corporate drones. At the old office, I was … Continue reading The Bathroom Issue
An ineffable string of random letters and/or sounds that somehow represents you. YOU. Who you are. Your essence. The same word is used to refer to who you used to be; to call your attention to the present; to stand in for who you will become. This name is yours. Your name is yours. You are your name. Even when so many others share the … Continue reading Nameless
Great news! I’m going on a tour of sorts to a few Transgender Conferences this summer. So far 2 out of 3 workshop proposals have been accepted, and I’m waiting to hear on the last one (fingers crossed). Workshop The workshop is titled Non-Binary Transition: Exploring the Options. Blurb So you’re genderqueer/non-binary, but you’re tired of talking – you want to DO something about it. … Continue reading Non-Binary Transition Workshop
A few people recently asked me this. There is no one way I deal/t with dysphoria, it’s more of a combination of methods depending on the situation. Here are some ideas that came to mind. Ignore it. Like a nagging and pesky fly, try to forget about it. For instance, I’ll shield myself from a stranger’s gender assumptions, brush it off, tell myself that it … Continue reading How do I deal with dysphoria?
My boyfriend is transgender, and he is currently planning to wait on T but wants to go ahead with top surgery. It was cool to see this blog because I only know two other transpeople and they both insisted that you need to be on T before top surgery. You seem so positive, and it’s refreshing to hear this. Many people talk about transitioning as … Continue reading Reader Ramblings: SOFFAs (not couches)
As I mumbled to the good doctor over at Dimensions “and one more thing I want that prescription please” she chuckled. She probably wasn’t laughing at me… actually maybe she was, since she said “Oh, we’re there already?” After the quizzical look I gave her she clarified, “I’m just surprised it took you this long.” Yeah, it’s been a long time coming, but we all … Continue reading T&T
Since I posted the not-so-comprehensive LGBTQIA Book List, I’ve done a fair amount of reading, and more excitingly, discovering. Here’s a rundown of all the new books I’ve come across that are definitely worth looking into. (Note that I’ve added the new ones to the soon-to-be-comprehensive LGBTQIA Book List.) I am J, by Cris Beam J is a half Jewish, half Puerto Rican, FTM transgender … Continue reading LGBTQIA Books Update
