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What’s the secret to figuring out your gender? Choosing labels, coming out, non-binary or not, all these questions are overwhelming to untangle by yourself.
The Gender Playbook promises no definitive answers, only a few wise words to help you along your gender journey. Continue reading The Gender Playbook
Ever since my trip back home, I’ve been thinking a lot about coming out. To your parents. Specifically, the part that happens after you come out: having them come to terms with you. Continue reading Grief
How do you figure out your gender? Guidelines and resources to help you get started on your journey. Continue reading What’s my gender?
Someone on the non-binary spectrum emailed me looking for resources on how to navigate their professional life, specifically in a conservative job environment where gender comes with certain expectations.
Do you just suck it up? What are the compromises one has to make? Where is the balance? Continue reading Reader Ramblings: Non-Binary Transition At Work
Thus I awoke just before 4am, heart racing, as present-me was navigating my life 10 years ago. Continue reading Past Life
It’s not about “passing” (whatever that means), it’s not about a “successful” transition (whatever that looks like) or a “complete” transition (life is never complete). It’s simply a spectrum of who you tell about your trans status. And as a non-binary person, I still wield the power of disclosure. It just took me a while to realize this. Continue reading Disclosure is a Spectrum
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When I told my dad I wanted surgery, it went something like this. We were at the Zócalo – Mexico City’s downtown district – shopping for my very first suit. He started talking about how the staff didn’t know whether I was a boy or a girl, how they were very confused by the whole situation. “You know I don’t care. I’m fine with that, … Continue reading Today’s Truth
The Conundrum Even after proclaiming my preferred pronouns, few people had come on board. Or rather, I’d made little effort to change the status quo. People had no way of knowing that my pronouns weren’t what they used to be, unless I would explicitly tell them. And “explicitly telling others” is not my strong suit. For over a year I’ve been trying to find a … Continue reading Coming Out
Monday I started a new job. With a new name. And new pronouns. All I can say is: WOW. Old Job A little less than a year ago, I was faced with a similar situation. A shiny new job, thus the perfect chance to change pronouns. But that opening was quickly shut, either by myself or the circumstances, or both. Regardless, it wasn’t the right … Continue reading Monday
Preface I wrote this letter almost 6 months ago, but it gathered dust in my drafts folder. Yesterday I sent my dad an unpublished story on my blog, and inadvertently this led him to read my whole blog. Which is fine, except for the fact that he had no idea I was on testosterone. This little detail escaped me at the time, and I clearly … Continue reading A Letter to My Family
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