I don’t always look this dazzling, though I generally try to maintain adequate levels of awesomeness. I’m 35-ish and most days you can find me staring at a computer in Boston MA. My cheerful spouse and I both originally grew up in Mexico City, Mexico, went to college in Philadelphia, and worked in San Francisco for a while. Four years ago we adopted Jasper, the most adorable senior dog with big ears and no hair and three teeth who is also an extreme introvert like us.
I’m Micah. Nice to meet you.
But What Do I DO?
You could say I’m a published writer, engaging advocate, and expert educator on transgender identities. I’ll admit that sounds presumptuous, so here’s some of my street cred.
I’m the co-editor of the anthology Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity, published by Columbia University Press in 2019.
I’ve been interviewed by lots of journalists from fancy publications such as The New York Times Magazine. My own writing has been published in not-as-fancy but queerly kick-ass online outlets, and my essays appear in a few books. And now I can also boast about my first official peer-review publication in the open access journal Transgender Health: Engaging Transgender Patients: Using Social Media to Inform Medical Practice and Research in Transgender Health.
Since 2010 I’ve traveled to every major transgender conference in the US. Most doctors eventually came to recognize me as “that strange stalker kid who follows me across the country.” My sessions on NonBinary Transition are known for their spunky humor, cookie metaphors, and occasional brain blanks.
I also consult, speak, present at, or exchange pleasantries with various health and educational organizations that seek to squeeze out my expertise in trans health. Or research. Or design. Or organizational strategy. Or whatever my career is that week. Cue identity crisis #2.
Most recently, I moved cross-country to study in a PhD program at Boston University. I bought an orange car which I named “Jellybean” and when I’m not reading academic articles, I try to rock climb once a week (yes, with orange shoes).
The Story Behind this Blog
I identify as nonbinary.
Since 2010 I’ve been transitioning – or rather, trying to figure out what transition means to me, as someone whose gender is neither female nor male. Specifically, I’ve done stuff with my body, my name, and my legal documents, to finally be myself (which is simply a handsomer yet equally cynical version of the previous me).
What began as a small blog in 2011 documenting my top surgery gradually morphed into a widely recognized, real legit nonbinary resource page – it has even been referenced in medical guidelines!
Alas, my gender journey has settled into little mayhem and more humdrum. Instead of posting about myself I started two series to feature a diverse array of stories and information about the transgender community.
I’m using this platform to amplify nonbinary experiences. Through this themed series, we collected over 50 stories in less than a year! Anyone is welcome to contribute a post, vlog, comic strip, and I’m holding out hope for that interpretative dance submission…
Patients & Providers
As if I weren’t busy enough, I launched another series. In collaboration with Charlie (a younger much taller more extroverted version of myself), we want to use this blog to: give trans patients a direct line to providers; connect providers working in trans health to other providers; promote ongoing research in trans health; contribute quality resources for providers and patients alike.
But not furry, thankfully. Although you’ve found me on the internet, I’m also a human you can talk to. For real. No contracts or hidden fees.
Email me micah AT genderqueer.me or use this handy-dandy form.
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56 thoughts on “Who Am I?”
Hey, I just wanted to say that I just discovered your blog, and I absolutely love it. I also want to congratulate you on your surgery going so well, and I hope you’re feeling better.
Oh, I forgot to ask: Would you allow me to make a link to your site? I really do enjoy your blog, and I would love to recommend it to others via my own blog. Pending your approval, of course.
Hi Meike – I’m very glad you found the blog and you’re enjoying it. Of course, feel free to post links to it anywhere else, or reference it in any way. I guess the whole point of it is to share the information for others, just like they did for me. Also ask me any questions anytime!
Thanks, will do! 🙂
Wow!!! I LOVE your open honesty all over the internet promoting and trying to educate about non-binary genders. I’ve only recently heard of the term “neutrois,” and pretty much instantly fell in love with it. While I can’t say that I’m neutrois, there’s something extremely attractive about it as a gender identity that fits me better than anything else I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing. THANK YOU! I’ll be sure to check back regularly 🙂
THANK YOU for your very kind words. I’m glad you stumbled onto something useful (and a little concerned that I’m all over the internet, but I guess that’s good right?).
Neutrois is a tricky word with lots of definitions floating out there, so take from it what fits, and we can make up the rest as we go. You are very welcome here and I am always open to questions or conversations of any kind.
I’m the girl with the black bow from the Americorps group today, and I just wanted to take the opportunity to thank you for such an inspiring presentation. As a member of the queer community myself, I really appreciated hearing your reflections about your childhood in Mexico City as well as your life now here in San Francisco. I saw that you climb at MC as well; there is a group of us that climb there 3X/week from Americorps. Perhaps we can all meet up sometime!
Hey Maddox: this is not spam: http://mylifewithtits.wordpress.com/2012/05/13/592/
First I liked the layout of the home page with many different posts to choose at the start. It is more interesting than just scrolling and make me wonder if I should change mine.
Of course, I read “about” and select posts to start and now understand your purpose here. I think it is great to venture into other topics along the way.
Thanks Rich, and welcome!
you live your life and you think that you have met enough people from all kinds of walks of life to be able to navigate comfortably and interact on the same level but then you just keep finding new varieties of people, new identities, new sexualities, new …other things that make you speechless and remind you that we know nothing.
It also reminds us that labeling people and trying to put them in small boxes to make us feel comfortable is just wrong. We are so different and unique and that is the greatest thing in this world. That makes this world a better place to live in.
Yep, every year I say to myself “well that was quite the experience, I learned so much, it seems impossible that there would be more left to learn.” And every year I prove myself wrong, and learn about things I could not even imagine existed! I hope to keep being wrong every year.
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Hey, Micah! (is it okay to casually call you by your name?) I have been following you for a while and I think that you run quite an interesting and inspiring blog. I nominated you for an Inspiring blog award. You do not have to participate in this but check it out if you like.
Here’s the shortlink to my post:
Good day to you 🙂
Thanks for the nomination. I get inspired by this!
Thanks so much for following my blog – I’ve just spent half my morning wandering around yours, and I’m loving your writing style and your humour and honesty! Now I really have to drag myself away and get to work…
Thank you for dropping by my blog and the follow. I look forward to exploring yours some more. . . lots to see here. Cheers.
Maddox, a completely interesting blog (I’ve only skimmed but will return later)! I like the writing and the openness. thanks for following my animal blog; stop by my other one sometimes: amirhbahati.wordpress.com. Be back later.
I think that you are incredibly brave to a) Share your life
in public and b) rock climb. 🙂 Thanks for dropping by.
I’m so happy to have discovered your blog and I look forward to following you in your journey! Keep on keeping on, kiddo! Blessings to you and those you love…..Be well, my pint-sized new friend! xoJulia
Great things come in small packages 😉 Thanks for the encouragement!
Thanks for following my blog! Very excited to follow your journey-good luck! 🙂
p.s. I wrote a piece on Frank Ocean’s ‘coming out’ and how everyone is constantly trying to put labels on people. I hope you can check it out! Why can’t we all just be considered complex people?
Thanks for the follow! Your blog looks amazing. I am going to read it now.
First things first! Your following “Randa Lane…” made my day! Your site, your enthusiasm, and zest for life come shining through every word you write. Sooo refreshing. Now…I am a MtF crossdresser, thus marginally on the fringes of “all things transgendered!” But I read voraciously everything I can, with especial attention to articles concerning “transition” with all that implies. Your blog will so instrumental in keeping me abreast of current events. Thanks for giving voice to those who so very desperately need such a voice as yours.
Thanks for following my blog. I look forward to following you also and getting to know you on WordPress. This was the best “about” page I’ve ever read. You make me want to revise mine. I love your writing tone and the great way you organized the information here with headings and links. Dang…I sound like a technical writing teacher, don’t I? That’s my day job, but I take it home with me : ) I love good writing and good layout/design. You’ve both. Nice to meet you!
Hello! I nominated you for a Versatile Blogger Award. You can read more here if you’re interested in participating: http://jenniesaia.wordpress.com/2013/05/18/versatile-with-cowbell/
Thanks for writing and writing well.
Can’t wait to read. So glad our paths crossed.
your blog is simply fantastic! Thanks very much for the follow, and I’ll definitely be a regular reader of your site.
All the best!
Kia ora Micah, love your blog – it’s great to know there’s a whole community of us young queer and trans* people out there sharing our stories 🙂 happy to have found your site and to be part of creating an awesome space for diverse representations of gender and sexuality! Cheers for the follow too x
Thanks so much for the follow. I look forward to reading about your journey. You and your partner sound nice. 🙂 And great intro by the way.
Blessings from NYC…
Hey, Micah. A friend pointed out your tumblr post about my novel IN HER SKIN. Just wanted to say thanks for making me all kinds of happy! Your shared story is helping heal hearts all over the place. Keep it up!
Thank you for sharing your life. It takes courage to be yourself in this world today. Be well, be happy. Your life awaits you.
i am not quite sure how you stumbled onto my crazy blog but i am so so so glad you did! it was kinda strange, i was reading a poem from my blog called no home a trans poem at a poetry reading bc you know it’s nov 20th and all, and the notification of your hello popped up as i was reading!!! i honestly, for reals, really can’t wait to read tons of your work!!! i think we can talk about a whole bunch of stuff!!! looking forward to getting to know you!-gracie
Thanks for checking out my blog! Nice to e-meet you, I’m really looking forward to reading more about you!
I don’t really know what to say because I’m too… freaked out to email you directly. I’m reading your items labeled “top surgery” and my head is just about to explode from how much I can relate to things you are saying, though I’m not in the place you were when you wrote those posts. Seriously, freaking out just a little. Maybe more than a little…
Hey there! Thank you for checking out my blog, as well as taking the time to follow it. (: I hope you enjoy reading my future posts. You have a simply fantastic blog, yourself, and it’s great to read and learn something new every time I come back to it. I’ve enjoyed following your journey thus far, and I look forward to seeing where you go and what you do from here on out. You are such an open, amazing person, and you’ve provided advice for so many people out there in the world.
Hi! I just found your blog and it is awesome!
I’m also agender and asexual!
Hi Micah, I stumbled upon your blog this evening and realised I’d read (part of) your story before, although I don’t think it was on word press. Sounds like you’re doing well. x
Hi, I’m agender and I’m hoping to find community if anyone wants to talk!
I just found your blog through the HuffPost repost… I was really glad to see someone else who has transitioned/is read male and still expresses through “femme” clothing? I’ve been really struggling with this lately.
Great site, Micah! Many people reading here might be interested in Mx (or Mix), a non-binary transgender title. I’ve been using Mx since 2002 and it has been a great benefit to me. To read all about this, and a little about the singular they, see http://www.mixmargaret.com/about-mx-with-miss-mrs-mr-ms-and-the-singular-they.html
You are a big inspiration for me im actually going through the transition of F to M Transgender and this sites is going to be a big help having people like you in the world makes being LGBTQ So Much Easier Im Also Pansexual.