First Exactly three years, I started my first real job. Right at the very same time I started binding. The problem was that this job was in New York, and I lived in Philadelphia, which is a two hour commute on the bus. Each way. Binding is a real pain when you’re sitting on the bus for 2 hours, but I would do it because … Continue reading Transitioning At Work
My company moved offices about a month ago. At the old office, we had an open space, which was getting very crowded. Then we got acquired by a huge corporation, and our lease ran out. Off to cozy up to the corporate headquarters, where I get my very own cube and officially join the ranks of the corporate drones. At the old office, I was … Continue reading The Bathroom Issue
The Primer Not quite 3 months ago, I started Testosterone, and my reasons, while took forever to congeal, were clear: I’d much rather be perceived as not-female than as female. Which leads me to the only other option: being perceived as male. The key word is perceived, and that takes two. Taking hormones is a physical means of making my body more androgynous. But physical … Continue reading A Pronouncement on Pronouns
She Recently I have the elusive opportunity to “start over” with an entirely new group of people. I’ve already been introduced by my not-so-temporary shortened name, which doesn’t seem to fool anyone – they always ask if it’s short for “feminine name” and then comment on how it’s a strange way of shortening it. I’ve also been introduced as, or assumed to be, “she.” But … Continue reading Not Trans Enough
I recently added an Ask box to the blog – you might want to check it out. In the meantime, we have our first brave volunteer, who ignited a long rambling in my head which I’ve concisely bundled into a hopefully coherent rambling here. Question I just was curious as to how you first declared to your family and friends you were neutrois. I am … Continue reading Reader Ramblings: On (Not) Coming Out
Tennis In first grade we had PE class. PE stands for physical education, an attempt to incluclate young minds with the values of exercise while, in some cases, inadvertently promoting alienation, devaluation, and gender segregation. (Let’s not get into that tangent just yet.) Alas my first grade class was one of the fortunate ones where the latter did not happen, but most likely neither did … Continue reading A Passing Story
I’ve come out to many people in many ways. I’ve received a wide variety of reactions; thankfully I’ve made it through the bad ones, and still cherish the good ones. Here are five points I wish I would’ve had as a coming out plan (not that I ever had a plan in the first place). 1. Think it through. All I want to do is … Continue reading Coming Out: The Plan
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