I have been having a lot of trouble with ‘not trans* enough’ thoughts and I don’t know how to combat them. I’m an advocate for trans* people at my school and I firmly believe that non-binary people are just as trans* and deserving of respect and consideration as any other trans* people, but I’m having so much trouble convincing my critical voice. I’ve been wanting … Continue reading Reader Ramblings: Not-Binary, Not Trans Enough
Is it better to pretend to be binary or to disclose your non-binary identity in order to access medical transition? Continue reading Reader Ramblings: Disclosing a Non-Binary Identity for Medical Transition
Letters for My Siblings – a new book by Transgress Press – seeks submissions from from writers who are non-binary, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, bigender, agender, or who simply don’t fit nicely into the boxes of “man” and “woman.” Continue reading Letters for My Siblings: Call for Submissions
It’s not about “passing” (whatever that means), it’s not about a “successful” transition (whatever that looks like) or a “complete” transition (life is never complete). It’s simply a spectrum of who you tell about your trans status. And as a non-binary person, I still wield the power of disclosure. It just took me a while to realize this. Continue reading Disclosure is a Spectrum
Not everyone is sure of their gender identity, now or ever – even those with binary-gendered identities. Often it’s more of a matter of unlearning all the stuff you grew up believing in your entire life, and building something new, and scary, and unknown. Continue reading Reader Ramblings: Finding Yourself
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A reader asks about experiencing dissonance after transitioning. “Somedays though, I don’t know what to do about being read as male more often than not. I mean, mostly that’s a good thing, I welcome it, I want it to happen. Sometimes, though, I want to scream I am not, I am neither gender, I don’t want a gender – but I remain quiet because I know the world can’t really conceptualize that.” Continue reading Post-Transition Dissonance
As I envision the person I’ll become in 5, 10, 25, or even 45 years, I’m certain everything about me will change, including my gender – how I feel about it, how I look, how others see me. Being trans is a lifelong condition, just another part of being human. Continue reading Post Transition
I once asked myself, “when will my transition be complete?” After which I questioned the underlying assumption, wondering “how can my transition ever be complete?” As a non-binary person this seemed impossible.
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Flights: purchased. Hotels: booked. Bags: packed. Well not yet… That’s right, for the second year in a row I’m making my rounds through all 3 major transgender conferences in the US this summer. Philadelphia Trans Health Conference From June 13-15, I get my first summer dunk into trans immersion at Philly Trans Health, Or as I like to call it, my yearly excuse to visit … Continue reading Transgender Conference Tour, round 2013
A reader writes in about her struggle in trying to understand genderqueer as an identity. How is it distinct from gender roles? What can she do to respect her family member’s process? Continue reading Explaining Genderqueer To Those Who Are Not
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