If you’re smart, you’ll notice that the title of the post says 4.5 months, even though it has been 5 months since I started T. Shortly after the last update – which marked my 3 month milestone – I stopped T for 2 weeks. Freak Out I was on vacation at the beach, where there was no point in putting on cream. Which also means … Continue reading Testosterone: 4.5 Months
Preface I wrote this letter almost 6 months ago, but it gathered dust in my drafts folder. Yesterday I sent my dad an unpublished story on my blog, and inadvertently this led him to read my whole blog. Which is fine, except for the fact that he had no idea I was on testosterone. This little detail escaped me at the time, and I clearly … Continue reading A Letter to My Family
First Exactly three years, I started my first real job. Right at the very same time I started binding. The problem was that this job was in New York, and I lived in Philadelphia, which is a two hour commute on the bus. Each way. Binding is a real pain when you’re sitting on the bus for 2 hours, but I would do it because … Continue reading Transitioning At Work
My company moved offices about a month ago. At the old office, we had an open space, which was getting very crowded. Then we got acquired by a huge corporation, and our lease ran out. Off to cozy up to the corporate headquarters, where I get my very own cube and officially join the ranks of the corporate drones. At the old office, I was … Continue reading The Bathroom Issue
An ineffable string of random letters and/or sounds that somehow represents you. YOU. Who you are. Your essence. The same word is used to refer to who you used to be; to call your attention to the present; to stand in for who you will become. This name is yours. Your name is yours. You are your name. Even when so many others share the … Continue reading Nameless
Great news! I’m going on a tour of sorts to a few Transgender Conferences this summer. So far 2 out of 3 workshop proposals have been accepted, and I’m waiting to hear on the last one (fingers crossed). Workshop The workshop is titled Non-Binary Transition: Exploring the Options. Blurb So you’re genderqueer/non-binary, but you’re tired of talking – you want to DO something about it. … Continue reading Non-Binary Transition Workshop
It’s been exactly 3 months since I started T. Since I wanted to start on a low dose, I opted for cream-based testosterone. It looks like regular hand cream, I dab a good spoonful on every morning on my thighs, and carefully wash my hands afterwards, making sure I don’t rub it on my girlfriend. It’s not an accurate equal dose every day, and I … Continue reading Testosterone: 3 Months
The Primer Not quite 3 months ago, I started Testosterone, and my reasons, while took forever to congeal, were clear: I’d much rather be perceived as not-female than as female. Which leads me to the only other option: being perceived as male. The key word is perceived, and that takes two. Taking hormones is a physical means of making my body more androgynous. But physical … Continue reading A Pronouncement on Pronouns
A few people recently asked me this. There is no one way I deal/t with dysphoria, it’s more of a combination of methods depending on the situation. Here are some ideas that came to mind. Ignore it. Like a nagging and pesky fly, try to forget about it. For instance, I’ll shield myself from a stranger’s gender assumptions, brush it off, tell myself that it … Continue reading How do I deal with dysphoria?
Hey everyone! In the coming months I will be presenting a few workshops, and am preparing to update a major website, all with regards to non-binary / genderqueer / non-traditional transgender transition. As we are all aware, there is very little out there on non-binary transition. Therefore, it is up to us to create it and fill the void. Because I am only one person … Continue reading Non-Binary / Genderqueer Transition Survey
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