Letters for My Siblings – a new book by Transgress Press – seeks submissions from from writers who are non-binary, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, bigender, agender, or who simply don’t fit nicely into the boxes of “man” and “woman.” Continue reading Letters for My Siblings: Call for Submissions
It’s not about “passing” (whatever that means), it’s not about a “successful” transition (whatever that looks like) or a “complete” transition (life is never complete). It’s simply a spectrum of who you tell about your trans status. And as a non-binary person, I still wield the power of disclosure. It just took me a while to realize this. Continue reading Disclosure is a Spectrum
I need someone to talk to as this is a whole new experience for me. My girlfriend is trans, and I want to support her, but I’m not really sure how best to do that. I want to understand what she is going through, but I am also going through my own process. Her body is different (not bad, just different), and that’s an adjustment … Continue reading Reader Ramblings: Helping Yourself as a Partner
Not everyone is sure of their gender identity, now or ever – even those with binary-gendered identities. Often it’s more of a matter of unlearning all the stuff you grew up believing in your entire life, and building something new, and scary, and unknown. Continue reading Reader Ramblings: Finding Yourself
It’s been quite a summer! I usually take this time post-conference to take a break and wait until things get settled before I pick things up again. Unfortunately, it looks like my schedule is not going to let up any time soon – in fact, I’m getting busier! The good news is that, having had a weekend writing spree, I can say I’m back from … Continue reading Summer Days and Summer Nights
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A reader asks about experiencing dissonance after transitioning. “Somedays though, I don’t know what to do about being read as male more often than not. I mean, mostly that’s a good thing, I welcome it, I want it to happen. Sometimes, though, I want to scream I am not, I am neither gender, I don’t want a gender – but I remain quiet because I know the world can’t really conceptualize that.” Continue reading Post-Transition Dissonance
As I envision the person I’ll become in 5, 10, 25, or even 45 years, I’m certain everything about me will change, including my gender – how I feel about it, how I look, how others see me. Being trans is a lifelong condition, just another part of being human. Continue reading Post Transition
I once asked myself, “when will my transition be complete?” After which I questioned the underlying assumption, wondering “how can my transition ever be complete?” As a non-binary person this seemed impossible.
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Flights: purchased. Hotels: booked. Bags: packed. Well not yet… That’s right, for the second year in a row I’m making my rounds through all 3 major transgender conferences in the US this summer. Philadelphia Trans Health Conference From June 13-15, I get my first summer dunk into trans immersion at Philly Trans Health, Or as I like to call it, my yearly excuse to visit … Continue reading Transgender Conference Tour, round 2013
A reader writes in about her struggle in trying to understand genderqueer as an identity. How is it distinct from gender roles? What can she do to respect her family member’s process? Continue reading Explaining Genderqueer To Those Who Are Not
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