My company moved offices about a month ago. At the old office, we had an open space, which was getting very crowded. Then we got acquired by a huge corporation, and our lease ran out. Off to cozy up to the corporate headquarters, where I get my very own cube and officially join the ranks of the corporate drones. At the old office, I was … Continue reading The Bathroom Issue
An ineffable string of random letters and/or sounds that somehow represents you. YOU. Who you are. Your essence. The same word is used to refer to who you used to be; to call your attention to the present; to stand in for who you will become. This name is yours. Your name is yours. You are your name. Even when so many others share the … Continue reading Nameless
Great news! I’m going on a tour of sorts to a few Transgender Conferences this summer. So far 2 out of 3 workshop proposals have been accepted, and I’m waiting to hear on the last one (fingers crossed). Workshop The workshop is titled Non-Binary Transition: Exploring the Options. Blurb So you’re genderqueer/non-binary, but you’re tired of talking – you want to DO something about it. … Continue reading Non-Binary Transition Workshop
It’s been exactly 3 months since I started T. Since I wanted to start on a low dose, I opted for cream-based testosterone. It looks like regular hand cream, I dab a good spoonful on every morning on my thighs, and carefully wash my hands afterwards, making sure I don’t rub it on my girlfriend. It’s not an accurate equal dose every day, and I … Continue reading Testosterone: 3 Months
The Primer Not quite 3 months ago, I started Testosterone, and my reasons, while took forever to congeal, were clear: I’d much rather be perceived as not-female than as female. Which leads me to the only other option: being perceived as male. The key word is perceived, and that takes two. Taking hormones is a physical means of making my body more androgynous. But physical … Continue reading A Pronouncement on Pronouns
A few people recently asked me this. There is no one way I deal/t with dysphoria, it’s more of a combination of methods depending on the situation. Here are some ideas that came to mind. Ignore it. Like a nagging and pesky fly, try to forget about it. For instance, I’ll shield myself from a stranger’s gender assumptions, brush it off, tell myself that it … Continue reading How do I deal with dysphoria?
My boyfriend is transgender, and he is currently planning to wait on T but wants to go ahead with top surgery. It was cool to see this blog because I only know two other transpeople and they both insisted that you need to be on T before top surgery. You seem so positive, and it’s refreshing to hear this. Many people talk about transitioning as … Continue reading Reader Ramblings: SOFFAs (not couches)
Hey everyone! In the coming months I will be presenting a few workshops, and am preparing to update a major website, all with regards to non-binary / genderqueer / non-traditional transgender transition. As we are all aware, there is very little out there on non-binary transition. Therefore, it is up to us to create it and fill the void. Because I am only one person … Continue reading Non-Binary / Genderqueer Transition Survey
The other day a former co-worker of mine found me and this blog. “You’re on the first row of images when I google ‘legalize trans’” she excitedly skyped. Other than a few choice people who know my real name, I try very hard to keep this blog semi-anonymous. In real life, I’m not out out. Meaning once in a while I’ll post an LGBTQ-related news … Continue reading On Anonymity
After posting pictures about my 1 Year Milestone, I got lots of questions spanning a variety of topics. I figured it’d be more useful if you can find them all in one place, at least the ones relating to top surgery. Here goes. How do I go about getting top surgery? Do your research. I also wrote about the process of getting top surgery a … Continue reading Top Surgery: 1 Year Post-Op Follow-Up and Mini-FAQ
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