Hormones are gradual. That I would actually take hormones was a surprise in itself, since for the longest time I was absolutely convinced that I would never ever do that. But also, internalizing the fact that you don’t take a shot of testosterone and wake up with a full grown beard and hunky chest hair helped me put aside my irrational fears and focus on … Continue reading 5 Things I Wish I Knew Last Year
Given that in the last post I quickly glossed over the fact that I have a major surgery scheduled in less than a week, I wanted to address a few details surrounding my decision and the whole process of having a hysterectomy. What procedure am I getting? A total laparoscopic hysterectomy, non-robotic to avoid an extra scar. All of my organs except my ovaries will … Continue reading My Hysto
Everything you ever wanted to know about top surgery… …but were afraid to ask (or tried to ask about but didn’t get an answer). For all the personal accounts and youtube channels out there, I still found it hard, frequently impossible, to find answers to all of my questions regarding top surgery before I had it three and a half years ago. There’s more information … Continue reading Questions about Top Surgery
Originally posted on The Queer Ace:
Sometimes I feel like we don’t talk enough about sex. When I give talks about asexuality, I explain “why not” – why don’t we want sex, how we are unattracted and so on. For some asexuals, this will be the full truth. But I always feel like I’m hiding something. I feel that what differs me from other people… Continue reading Asexy sex
Goodbye 2012, and what a year it was. The things I accomplished in 2012 go way beyond anything I ever intended or imagined. (The only reason 2011 has a leg up is because I had top surgery at the beginning of that year, and that is still the biggest milestone in my life.) Let’s do a quick recap. Started, then stopped, then started, then stopped … Continue reading 2012
A few weeks ago I was featured on a panel for Huffington Post Live, talking about Asexuality. In it I told a story which had actually been brewing in the back of my mind for a while, and which I’d been meaning to share with you. So here it is. I thought everybody was asexual High school embodies the coming-of-age age. Everybody is blossoming into … Continue reading Everybody’s Asexual
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When I told my dad I wanted surgery, it went something like this. We were at the Zócalo – Mexico City’s downtown district – shopping for my very first suit. He started talking about how the staff didn’t know whether I was a boy or a girl, how they were very confused by the whole situation. “You know I don’t care. I’m fine with that, … Continue reading Today’s Truth
Thanksgiving was last week here in the US. Since it was low key this year at my household I didn’t bother dressing up; instead, I dressed up this week! All part of the plan to feature myself for #Fashion Friday. Sweater My favorite part of the outfit is my new bright light blue sweater from American Eagle. Most times, dressy sweaters dont’ fit me: mens’ XS are … Continue reading Fashion Friday
The Conundrum Even after proclaiming my preferred pronouns, few people had come on board. Or rather, I’d made little effort to change the status quo. People had no way of knowing that my pronouns weren’t what they used to be, unless I would explicitly tell them. And “explicitly telling others” is not my strong suit. For over a year I’ve been trying to find a … Continue reading Coming Out
As I’m knee deep in a paperwork nightmare, I can’t help but freak out a little. I question my decision to change my legal gender, wondering whether it’s worth all this hassle. Things were fine before. Well, things weren’t fine before, but things were fine, or… functional. When will it be fine again? Maybe I just made the biggest mistake of my life and inherited … Continue reading Doubt
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