A few people recently asked me this. There is no one way I deal/t with dysphoria, it’s more of a combination of methods depending on the situation. Here are some ideas that came to mind. Ignore it. Like a nagging and pesky fly, try to forget about it. For instance, I’ll shield myself from a stranger’s gender assumptions, brush it off, tell myself that it … Continue reading How do I deal with dysphoria?
My boyfriend is transgender, and he is currently planning to wait on T but wants to go ahead with top surgery. It was cool to see this blog because I only know two other transpeople and they both insisted that you need to be on T before top surgery. You seem so positive, and it’s refreshing to hear this. Many people talk about transitioning as … Continue reading Reader Ramblings: SOFFAs (not couches)
Hey everyone! In the coming months I will be presenting a few workshops, and am preparing to update a major website, all with regards to non-binary / genderqueer / non-traditional transgender transition. As we are all aware, there is very little out there on non-binary transition. Therefore, it is up to us to create it and fill the void. Because I am only one person … Continue reading Non-Binary / Genderqueer Transition Survey
The other day a former co-worker of mine found me and this blog. “You’re on the first row of images when I google ‘legalize trans’” she excitedly skyped. Other than a few choice people who know my real name, I try very hard to keep this blog semi-anonymous. In real life, I’m not out out. Meaning once in a while I’ll post an LGBTQ-related news … Continue reading On Anonymity
After posting pictures about my 1 Year Milestone, I got lots of questions spanning a variety of topics. I figured it’d be more useful if you can find them all in one place, at least the ones relating to top surgery. Here goes. How do I go about getting top surgery? Do your research. I also wrote about the process of getting top surgery a … Continue reading Top Surgery: 1 Year Post-Op Follow-Up and Mini-FAQ
Today I am one-year post op from my top surgery. There have been many changes over the course of the year, both physically, emotionally, and mentally. Overall I am extremely happy. Timeline: Posts Here’s a list of all the posts I wrote related to my top surgery: Pre-Surgery 02/11/2011 Top Surgery 02/15/2011 Top Surgery, Part 2 02/19/2011 Last Minute Concerns Seven-Day Journal 02/21/2011 Top Surgery … Continue reading Top Surgery: 1 Year Post-Op
Before my top surgery I did lots of research. It mostly consisted of browsing piles of pictures of people’s chests, picking apart the subtle nuances of each, and drawing conclusions to ultimately inform my decision. I get quite a few requests to share my thought process for analyzing these results. Given my experience, I’m going to focus on DI procedures, though some things are relevant … Continue reading Top Surgery: Analyzing Results
One year ago I made a bet with myself. I bet that I wouldn’t have the muster to keep this blog going for a year. The initial intent for the blog was to relate my experiences as a neutrois (and rather charming) person. It was precipitously started because of my impending top surgery, and my desire to document it. I’ve done that, and much much … Continue reading One Year Bloggaversary
This is the last installment as I tirelessly recount all the books I read last year. You can take Part 1 and Part 2, stitch it together with Part 3, and you’ve got the whole entire list! These should also appear in the ever-growing up-to-date LGBTQIA Reading List. LGBTQ-themed Fiction and such (Adult) Blue Boy, by Rakesh Satyal The author writes a fictional auto-biographical account … Continue reading Yearly LGBTQ Book Review, Part 3
Well, I’m a 33 year old female bodied but trans identifying person. I am seriously considering top surgery, but have no desire to ever go on T. My question: If you don’t mind me asking, and please forgive me if I am being rude, what were your chest measurements, cup size, I suppose it is called, before the surgery? I can find so many post-op … Continue reading Reader Ramblings: There’s No T in Top Surgery
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