This year I went to 3 conferences. Gender Spectrum Gender Spectrum is about transgender and gender diverse youth, but who it’s really for is the parents. I was there primarily as a volunteer , and it was nice to be in a support role, the tree trunk parents that can lean on. It was like a family reunion, seeing people I remembered from last year, who … Continue reading Gender Conference Summary
No posts in almost two weeks? Pathetic, I know. But usually when this happens there’s a darn good reason for it, and now there are plenty. Here’s some of the busi-ness that’s been keeping me from my first love (all of you, of course!). Personal Portfolio One of the things that’s been on my radar this month is updating my personal portfolio. I’m a web … Continue reading Busy Bee
Remaining stealth is important to many bloggers for a variety of reasons, and I frequently refer to my inclination for semi-anonymity. But lately it has become increasingly difficult to keep all of my identities in check, neatly compartmentalized and perpendicularly aligned, as my lives intersect in many ways. Whenever I have to give out my “real” name to someone – by “real” I usually mean … Continue reading Orange Red, Red Orange: Intersecting Identities
It’s summer (although in San Francisco it always feels like fog), and I’ve been reading! Here’s a taste of what’s been on my bookshelf this season. Second Son, by Ryan Sallans I met Ryan at the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference about a month ago. He took the time to carefully listen as I stumbled and rambled on, explaining how he is one of my “gender … Continue reading LGBTQ Summer Reads
You can now get more of my awesomeness by liking my Facebook Page. Posts include short updates such as: LGBTQ books I’m reading Thoughtfully cute drawings What the effects are of extra-strength body lotion for men How hard it is to find gender-neutral age-appropriate vitamins Above all, I enjoy connecting to a broader community and engaging in conversations about the gendered world we encounter every day. … Continue reading Like Neutrois Nonsense on Facebook
Last summer I sent an email to the Transgender Law Center and asked for referrals to a trans-friendly immigration lawyer in San Francisco. The lawyer I met with was very perceptive, super LGBT friendly. (It is always very affirming to walk into a place and not be afraid of being completely honest, and moreover be respected for who you are.) Mexico I was born in … Continue reading Legal Gender Change, the International Version
What I find fascinating is that, when presented with missing information, given a lack of evidence, or even evidence to the contrary, people desperately cling to their initial assumptions. And nothing is more unshakeable than the gender assumption. Rarely have people corrected themselves (at least in front of me) from making what they deemd was an “erroneous” gender assumption. And when they do, it is … Continue reading Illusions
If you’re smart, you’ll notice that the title of the post says 4.5 months, even though it has been 5 months since I started T. Shortly after the last update – which marked my 3 month milestone – I stopped T for 2 weeks. Freak Out I was on vacation at the beach, where there was no point in putting on cream. Which also means … Continue reading Testosterone: 4.5 Months
A Story “Does your school have a band you can play in?” asked my unsuspecting drum teacher. I’ve been taking drum lessons for nearly a year now (though I’ve been drumming for much longer). “I don’t go to school.” My specialty is to give cryptic yet truthful answers. It drives most people nuts. “Are you going to be on school break soon?” he asked another … Continue reading Assumptions
Preface I wrote this letter almost 6 months ago, but it gathered dust in my drafts folder. Yesterday I sent my dad an unpublished story on my blog, and inadvertently this led him to read my whole blog. Which is fine, except for the fact that he had no idea I was on testosterone. This little detail escaped me at the time, and I clearly … Continue reading A Letter to My Family
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