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Post-Transition Dissonance

A reader asks about experiencing dissonance after transitioning. “Somedays though, I don’t know what to do about being read as male more often than not. I mean, mostly that’s a good thing, I welcome it, I want it to happen. Sometimes, though, I want to scream I am not, I am neither gender, I don’t want a gender – but I remain quiet because I know the world can’t really conceptualize that.” Continue reading Post-Transition Dissonance

Transgender Conference Tour, round 2013

Flights: purchased. Hotels: booked. Bags: packed. Well not yet… That’s right, for the second year in a row I’m making my rounds through all 3 major transgender conferences in the US this summer. Philadelphia Trans Health Conference From June 13-15, I get my first summer dunk into trans immersion at Philly Trans Health, Or as I like to call it, my yearly excuse to visit … Continue reading Transgender Conference Tour, round 2013

Transgender and Gender Diverse Characters in (lesser known) Movies and TV Shows

If you’ve been familiar with the concept of trans and gender for longer than 2 seconds, then you’ve most likely heard of mainstream movies like Boys Don’t Cry and Transamerica. If you’re older, or have done some research, you might’ve watched The Crying Game, or Bad Education. And who can ever miss the cult classic Hedwig and the Angry Inch? (I sure didn’t know what … Continue reading Transgender and Gender Diverse Characters in (lesser known) Movies and TV Shows

Parallel Worlds

Author’s Note: I wrote this piece for an upcoming anthology called Trans Bodies Trans Selves. The topic was being a trans immigrant, which I integrated with having non-binary gender. Enjoy! When my life officially began on April 23rd 1986 in Mexico City, Mexico, I was a girl. The doctor peeked between my legs and proclaimed it so. Nobody questioned it much, except me; silently, of … Continue reading Parallel Worlds

2 years

Today I got an automated email. It’s been 2 years from today since I started blogging at I never imagined everything that would come of it: intimate exploration of my identity, exposing my transition very publicly, speaking at workshops and participating in panels, traveling to conferences across the US, meeting trans advocates from all over the world, and connecting with a community who is … Continue reading 2 years


Though the general public perceives “transitioning” as some magical sex change that instantly transforms you from man to woman, or woman to man, we all know it doesn’t really work that way. This is especially true when your gender falls out of the binary, but more often than not these days people are not even taking the “traditional” routes to transition so by now it … Continue reading Ready


5 Things I Wish I Knew Last Year

Hormones are gradual. That I would actually take hormones was a surprise in itself, since for the longest time I was absolutely convinced that I would never ever do that. But also, internalizing the fact that you don’t take a shot of testosterone and wake up with a full grown beard and hunky chest hair helped me put aside my irrational fears and focus on … Continue reading 5 Things I Wish I Knew Last Year