For the past few days I’ve been making my way through the interminable list at Mombian.com of all the posts and bloggers that contributed to the Blogging for LGBT families event. I submitted my post at the very last minute, and I’m very glad I did. There were gay families talking about their kids, and about their past or planned wedding (legal and illegal). There … Continue reading Recap: Blogging for LGBT Families 2011
Blogging for LGBT Families Day I read about the 6th Annual Blogging for LGBT Families Day yesterday, and promptly dismissed it since it seemed too late. Plus I don’t have a family, yet… do I? When realized I could still get my submission in today, bam! inspiration hit. Better late than never. Enjoy. Presently Thinking About the Future My significant other and I have been … Continue reading Queerious Questions
Context Passing as a boy is highly dependent on context. Adult restaurant – not a boy. Coffe shop alone with my laptop – not a boy. Macy’s boy’s department – boy, until I pull out my credit card and am asked for ID. Regular clothing store – half and half, until the sales clerk realizes why those jeans he offered just don’t fit me quite … Continue reading The Numbers Game
Recently my girlfriend and I have been plowing through a TV series that came out about 8-9 years ago. 8 Simple Rules starred John Ritter, who very sadly passed away in the middle of season 2, and the show was never the same after that. I remember watching it when the show was brand new (9 years ago!) with my mom and my brother after … Continue reading 8 Simple Rules
I’ve come out to many people in many ways. I’ve received a wide variety of reactions; thankfully I’ve made it through the bad ones, and still cherish the good ones. Here are five points I wish I would’ve had as a coming out plan (not that I ever had a plan in the first place). 1. Think it through. All I want to do is … Continue reading Coming Out: The Plan
Sometimes pass as a boy, other times as girl, and even, to my delight, as an ambiguously gendered person, which is the closest one can get to agender passing. As an introductory prelude, let it remain unspecified as to which one I prefer to pass as, or how I feel about passing in general. I’d just like to point out some mathematical correlations I’ve induced. … Continue reading The Math of Passing
EDIT: see the comments at the end of the post. I found a link to a guy’s blog, and he doesn’t allow comments, so here’s my comment. The author points out that some of the descriptions of top surgery (aka FTM Chest Masculinization) cases on a Dr.’s website list the patient as she and her. And the author is very pissed at this. And this … Continue reading Top Surgery is Not Just for FTMs
A few days ago I saw that someone had linked to my blog, and went over to see what it was all about. I was thoroughly disappointed to see that the person who had linked to my posts, twice, was less than positive – they were downright hateful. After my initial upset calmed down, I opted against engaging in a flamebait war by arguing against … Continue reading Translating Hate: Questions
FTM vs FTN Most FTM’s eagerly anticipate changing their appearance in one basic way: facial hair. But I’m not FTM, I’m FTN, meaning hair in places other than my head does not fly with me. The thought of purposefully growing facial hair is terrifying, and the thought of any sort of body hair is disgusting. Just one of the many perks of being agender. However, … Continue reading Hair!
A post over at Sciatrix’s blog called out for more asexual writing, and specifically mentioned the topic of discussing asexual/sexual relationships. Given that I am in one of these seemingly rare oddities, I feel obliged to expound on this matter. Actions Do Not Speak Louder than Words Despite the veil of anonymity I maintain here, I’m still quite shy when it comes to discussing certain … Continue reading An Asexual/Sexual Relationship
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