The Conundrum Even after proclaiming my preferred pronouns, few people had come on board. Or rather, I’d made little effort to change the status quo. People had no way of knowing that my pronouns weren’t what they used to be, unless I would explicitly tell them. And “explicitly telling others” is not my strong suit. For over a year I’ve been trying to find a … Continue reading Coming Out
As I’m knee deep in a paperwork nightmare, I can’t help but freak out a little. I question my decision to change my legal gender, wondering whether it’s worth all this hassle. Things were fine before. Well, things weren’t fine before, but things were fine, or… functional. When will it be fine again? Maybe I just made the biggest mistake of my life and inherited … Continue reading Doubt
Last Thursday November 1st I had my official Court Date in the state of California, wherein I legally changed my name and gender. This small legal victory been a long time coming for me, even though it was set in motion just recently when I discovered that I could file a court order even as a non-US citizen. Court Requirements Gathering the requirements was relatively … Continue reading Legally Transgender
Fashion Friday My friend Zak from Art of Transliness asked me to do a Fashion Friday post for their new weekly series. Well, if there’s anything I like more than buying clothes is talking about the clothes I buy, so I was very excited to do this! For my first #FashionFriday post, I decided to showcase one of my favorite outfits. It’s super simple, comfortable, casual yet … Continue reading Fashion Friday
Last anyone heard, I was on an “indefinite” break from Testosterone. Well, that indefinite break lasted a grand total of about 2 weeks, and I’ve been back on T ever since, which makes for a very confusing grand total of about 9 months, ish. Although 2 weeks is not very long, and this was my second-time-off/third-time-on, this time it was… different. The reasons for that … Continue reading Testosterone: 9 months
The Break Up Back in early June, I was giving up on T for good – or at least, “indefinitely” – because it wasn’t working out. The day-to-day mental torture was unnecessary; it was ultimately not worth it. And if I was ever going back on T, it had to be on different terms: I had to want something different. But therein lies the catch. … Continue reading Testosterone: Our Rocky Relationship
Some Pre, During, Post Surgery Advice I Wish I Had Most of the emails I get from readers are about top surgery, specifically the process of getting it, how to go about it when you’re non-binary identified, (be it neutrois, genderqueer, agender, female, or unsure), how to look for the right surgeon, working through internal commotion as to whether getting surgery is the right step … Continue reading Top Surgery: Tips and Advice
Switching Switching jobs (or schools or towns) is probably the best opportunity one gets to make any sort of big change, especially something like name and pronouns. I’ll admit it was relatively easy, though not quite straightforward. A few people at my new job had already met me a year prior, and were introduced to me with my old name and old pronouns. On top … Continue reading Slip and Switch
The Perfect Fit A newly minted parent is tasked with the highly anticipated and/or much dreaded job of choosing a name for their baby. This soon-to-be alive little tiny person has yet to form an identity, showcase a personality, settle into habits and quirks; he/she/it/they are just an idea, an unformed blob of dreams and fears. The name that the parent(s) choose is based on … Continue reading The Story of My Name
If you sit down and have dinner with me, it would appear as if I know a lot, and always have something to say. Chances are I’ve got the latest (or not so latest) scoop on LGBT news, am armed with a relevant tidbit or two regarding identity, readily offer links to resources, and can usually elaborate on insightful comments about any discussion at hand. … Continue reading Reading
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