Notable Absence

If you’ve been paying attention at all, you may have noticed there have not been any posts of substance for about one month. Contrast this with the previous steady stream of 1-4 posts a week and you might wonder if something is up. And yeah, you might be right.

New Job

Remember that new group of people I was talking about a few weeks back? They’re my new co-workers. Yep, I quit my old job and started a new one. Unfortunately, I lost my window of opportunity for correcting any pronouns so now I’m stuck with she. On the other hand, there is only one girl in the office, and she keeps pointing out that now there are two, and I keep correcting her and saying “well, I’m not a girl, so I don’t count.” And I wore my Legalize Trans* shirt, which caught a few eyes. So at least I’m keeping the ball rolling in people’s minds, however slowly. After talking to my significant other, we concluded that I can always just “come out” at some indescribable point where I feel uncomfortable enough by the current situation and comfortable enough to make a change. The main obstacle is just shyness, and insecurity, because I don’t want to re-live the Great Mis-Name Debacle with pronouns, and in a more permanent situation.

New Gigs

Given the new hectic weekday schedule, I thought I’d still have time to catch up by writing on the weekends. Oops, I was wrong about that too, but not because I’ve been lazy (ok, maybe a little), but because I’ve been really busy with another exciting project. I applied and was accepted as a volunteer speaker for the SF LGBTQ Speaker’s Bureau. The past two Saturdays have been occupied with full day trainings at the SF LGBT Center.

So what is the LGBTQ Speaker’s Bureau? Other than still not being able to spell Bureau, it’s quite simple. A group of LGBTQ people visit local middle schools, high schools, and colleges, telling their queer story about their queer life, in order to put a human face to queer people, showing others that we’re really not all that different. Specifically, two speakers sign up for a “gig”, then show up a classroom, give a short 2 minute bio about themselves, and open it up to questions. It’s the kind of scary that gives me excited chills of anticipation, as I’ll get a chance to stand in front of an eager and inquisitive audience and share my super average queer life with complete strangers.

New Ring

What’s this about a new ring? Last weekend my girlfriend officially proposed, so I guess I should call her my fiancee now (although we’re sticking with “engagee” even if it’s not a real word). When’s the wedding, you ask? Well, clearly we didn’t think this through very well, since we both realized after that fact that this means we actually have to start planning a wedding, for realz this time. Oh well, one day when we’re not so busy with out jobs, we might use this as a good excuse to throw a fancy party.

New Writing

Anyway, that’s all the interesting and exciting news I’ve got. I’m planning new series of posts and committing myself to writing them at some point, or to at least not abandon you for so long again. Also, if you have any suggestions of what to write, or any questions, comments, concerns, or praise, drop by my Ask box. Thanks for reading!

9 thoughts on “Notable Absence

  1. Yay for a new job! I hope you’re enjoying it there and the pronoun thing works out. The Speaker’s thing sounds really interesting. I don’t know what I would’ve done if someone had come to my high school and talked about being neutrois. Probably excused myself to the bathroom to sob.

    And hey, congratulations on the engagement! 😀 That’s great news.

  2. Well no wonder you haven’t been writing, you’ve been pretty busy!

    Good luck with the new job! Congratulations on the engagement! And have fun with the speakers bureau! I always think that sounds like so much fun, but my weekends are never free for the training, sadly…I know I wish I’d heard from more types of people growing up, and just heard about the other options.

    Getting stuck with the wrong pronoun is lame. But I wonder if some of our concern about the pronouns is a little self-imposed? I mean, why does there have to be a window to achieve it in? What would happen if you were to simply ask for your preferred pronouns tomorrow? Maybe they would be more likely to make the switch now that they know and respect you? Maybe it’s worth he risk. Just a thought. Hope you can find a solution that works for you.

    Have fun with all your new stuff!

  3. Thanks everyone! Unfortunately my new ring (we had to exchange it) hasn’t arrived so I can’t show it off yet! Also my first gig for the LGBT Speaker’s Bureau is in two weeks, although I’ll just be quietly observing this time.

    There’s a lot more to talk about so I’ll just go and write!

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