Jacob Tobia seeks gender empowerment in the professional world. When being visibly gender nonconforming raises eyebrows on the street, how can someone stay true to their identity in the workplace?
What’s the secret to figuring out your gender? Choosing labels, coming out, non-binary or not, all these questions are overwhelming to untangle by yourself.
The Gender Playbook promises no definitive answers, only a few wise words to help you along your gender journey.
Ever since my trip back home, I’ve been thinking a lot about coming out. To your parents. Specifically, the part that happens after you come out: having them come to terms with you.
How do you figure out your gender? Guidelines and resources to help you get started on your journey.
Someone on the non-binary spectrum emailed me looking for resources on how to navigate their professional life, specifically in a conservative job environment where gender comes with certain expectations.
Do you just suck it up? What are the compromises one has to make? Where is the balance?
Thus I awoke just before 4am, heart racing, as present-me was navigating my life 10 years ago.
It’s not about “passing” (whatever that means), it’s not about a “successful” transition (whatever that looks like) or a “complete” transition (life is never complete). It’s simply a spectrum of who you tell about your trans status. And as a non-binary person, I still wield the power of disclosure. It just took me a while to realize this.
A reader writes in about her struggle in trying to understand genderqueer as an identity. How is it distinct from gender roles? What can she do to respect her family member’s process?
If you’ve been familiar with the concept of trans and gender for longer than 2 seconds, then you’ve most likely heard of mainstream movies like Boys Don’t Cry and Transamerica. […]
Hormones are gradual. That I would actually take hormones was a surprise in itself, since for the longest time I was absolutely convinced that I would never ever do that. […]