“How’s Micah?” my father-in-law texts my spouse. He lives in a small suburb in Georgia, sings at church every Sunday, and occasionally wears Hawaiian-print shirts. Every time a trans person makes a splash in mainstream media — Chaz Bono on Dancing With the Stars, Laverne Cox gracing the cover of Time — he checks in, his small way of letting us know he’s totally cool with everything. He is also one of 17 million Americans who saw Caitlyn Jenner come out as transgender on national television.
I haven’t even come out to 17 people, at least not with the whole story.
For my debut piece in The Advocate Magazine, I ruminate over the good and the bad depictions of genderqueer people in the media, and what this lack of representation (or mis-representation) means for non-binary people like me. Of course, there’s a mention to Ruby Rose, Miley Cyrus, and Caitlyn Jenner. So if you missed it, head on over and take a read:
There are a million combinations of us, but no one yet to tell our story to our friends and families, to the average American at the breakfast table, in dorm rooms and bedrooms, in grocery aisles and waiting rooms, reading all about it in Vanity Fair.
The New York Times has been running a series called Transgender Today, covering a wide swath of issues faced by the community. They accompanied their articles with an interactive series of editorials where anyone can submit their own story. Mine is about not having a transition template:
There has been no transition template for me to follow; I’ve had to make it up as I go along. My gender does not exist in a society that only has room for male and female. From clothing to vitamins, passports to bathrooms, I don’t see my gender, my identity – me – anywhere.
Last month also saw another published article of mine, a re-print of 5 Myths About Non-Binary Transition over at Everyday Feminism.
And I updated my About page, because nobody likes to read a stale bio. Plus, I get more awesome every year.
Moving forward, I hope to submit my writing to several other publications in order to reach a wider audience. Not that you guys aren’t wonderful readers! There are just so many people who are dying to hear this information and I wish I knew how to find them all and tell them all they’re not alone or weird (ok maybe just a little) and that it’s all gonna be ok because they’re surrounded by folks like us.