I hate people who say “fuck the binary.” At least those who express it in that specific way, or that specific phrase, in general. Let’s translate that hate.
To clarify, I don’t curse after every other word, but I do curse; thus, “fuck” is definitely in my every-other-day lexicon, so that’s not what bothers me. It’s also perfectly fine with me for others to express themselves. The phrase does express the discomfort at not fitting in, the rage of facing rejection everyday, the confusion of being thrown into a maze without a map. But it expresses this frustration with hate, and as I’ve said before, I hate hate.
When someone says “fuck you” they’re not enticing me to talk back. Thus, saying “fuck the binary” fends off any potential dialog one could have – a conversation with others, or even onself, to grow and learn. Moreover, it fulfills the stereotype of the confused, rebel punk teenager who only does things to piss other people off. It’s hard to take someone like that seriously.
I don’t exist outside of the binary to mess with people. I do it because I do, that’s where I exist, period. I don’t exaclty enjoy the conflicts of non-binaryism. Although yes, I’m most often proud for not being inside the bell curve, for having a unique journey to learn from and keep me busy. And yes, sometimes I’m confused too. But telling others to “fuck off” or “fuck their system” is not a solution to anything.
What is the solution? I certainly don’t have all of them, but I do have one proposal. How about, instead of framing those negative feelings in an avoidantly aggresive form, you take a step back and dig deep into how you really feel? What is it that really bothers you? What makes you so frustrated, or uncomfortable, or angry about “the binary”? Let’s translate that hate.