Goodbye 2012, and what a year it was. The things I accomplished in 2012 go way beyond anything I ever intended or imagined. (The only reason 2011 has a leg up is because I had top surgery at the beginning of that year, and that is still the biggest milestone in my life.) Let’s do a quick recap. Started, then stopped, then started, then stopped … Continue reading 2012
A few weeks ago I was featured on a panel for Huffington Post Live, talking about Asexuality. In it I told a story which had actually been brewing in the back of my mind for a while, and which I’d been meaning to share with you. So here it is. I thought everybody was asexual High school embodies the coming-of-age age. Everybody is blossoming into … Continue reading Everybody’s Asexual
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When I told my dad I wanted surgery, it went something like this. We were at the Zócalo – Mexico City’s downtown district – shopping for my very first suit. He started talking about how the staff didn’t know whether I was a boy or a girl, how they were very confused by the whole situation. “You know I don’t care. I’m fine with that, … Continue reading Today’s Truth
Thanksgiving was last week here in the US. Since it was low key this year at my household I didn’t bother dressing up; instead, I dressed up this week! All part of the plan to feature myself for #Fashion Friday. Sweater My favorite part of the outfit is my new bright light blue sweater from American Eagle. Most times, dressy sweaters dont’ fit me: mens’ XS are … Continue reading Fashion Friday
The Conundrum Even after proclaiming my preferred pronouns, few people had come on board. Or rather, I’d made little effort to change the status quo. People had no way of knowing that my pronouns weren’t what they used to be, unless I would explicitly tell them. And “explicitly telling others” is not my strong suit. For over a year I’ve been trying to find a … Continue reading Coming Out
As I’m knee deep in a paperwork nightmare, I can’t help but freak out a little. I question my decision to change my legal gender, wondering whether it’s worth all this hassle. Things were fine before. Well, things weren’t fine before, but things were fine, or… functional. When will it be fine again? Maybe I just made the biggest mistake of my life and inherited … Continue reading Doubt
Last Thursday November 1st I had my official Court Date in the state of California, wherein I legally changed my name and gender. This small legal victory been a long time coming for me, even though it was set in motion just recently when I discovered that I could file a court order even as a non-US citizen. Court Requirements Gathering the requirements was relatively … Continue reading Legally Transgender
Fashion Friday My friend Zak from Art of Transliness asked me to do a Fashion Friday post for their new weekly series. Well, if there’s anything I like more than buying clothes is talking about the clothes I buy, so I was very excited to do this! For my first #FashionFriday post, I decided to showcase one of my favorite outfits. It’s super simple, comfortable, casual yet … Continue reading Fashion Friday
Last anyone heard, I was on an “indefinite” break from Testosterone. Well, that indefinite break lasted a grand total of about 2 weeks, and I’ve been back on T ever since, which makes for a very confusing grand total of about 9 months, ish. Although 2 weeks is not very long, and this was my second-time-off/third-time-on, this time it was… different. The reasons for that … Continue reading Testosterone: 9 months
The Break Up Back in early June, I was giving up on T for good – or at least, “indefinitely” – because it wasn’t working out. The day-to-day mental torture was unnecessary; it was ultimately not worth it. And if I was ever going back on T, it had to be on different terms: I had to want something different. But therein lies the catch. … Continue reading Testosterone: Our Rocky Relationship
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